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Friendship with oneself is all important [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.- Eleanor Roosevelt
We often focus on building relationships with others that we forget the essential first step: being friends of ourselves. That is the crucial first step if we are to have good relationships with others. How can we have good relationships with others if we don't even have good relationship with ourselves?
The problem might be worse than we expect. Maybe we don't like ourselves without realizing it. Here is a simple checklist; is there anything you don't like about yourself from these list?
Your past
Maybe you have made mistakes in the past which you feel bad about. You might be disappointed with yourself on why you could make such mistakes. Even if that happened in distant past [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], your subconscious mind still has a reason not to like yourself.
Your background
You might wish that you were born in different family [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], or that you have different background. Maybe you could not accept the fact that you are not as lucky as others [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], who seem to get whatever they want effortlessly because of their background.
Your personality traits
You might have some personality traits that you don't like. For example [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], you may be an introvert and you don't like it; you wish you are an extrovert.
Your achievements relative to others Others might have better achievements than you [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and no matter how hard you tried [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], it might seem impossible for you to match them. You might then think that it's because you are not smart enough or don't have enough talents. Is there anything that resonate with you? All these give reasons to you not to like yourself. That in turn makes it difficult for you to be a good friend to yourself.
Fortunately [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], there are always things you can do to fix the situation. Here are some tips:
1. Forgive yourself
You may have made those mistakes in the past [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], but is there anything you can do about them? I don't think so [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], except learning from them. It's true that you are not perfect [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], but neither is everybody else. It’s normal to make mistakes [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], so do yourself a favor by giving yourself forgiveness.
2. Accept things you can't change
There are some things you cannot change [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], such as your background and your past. So learn to accept them. You will feel much relieved if you treat things you can’t change the way they deserve: just accept them [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], smile [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and move on.
3. Focus on your strengths
Instead of focusing on your weaknesses [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], focus on your strengths. You always have some strengths which give you a unique combination nobody else have. Recognize your strengths and build your life around them.
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4. Write your success stories
One reason we may not like ourselves is we are too focused on what we don’t have that we forget about what we have. So make a list of your achievements; write your success stories. They do not have to be big things; there are a lot of small but important achievements in our life. For example [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], if you have some good friends [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], that’s already an achievement. If you have a good family [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], that is also an achievement.
5. Stop comparing yourself with others
You are unique. You can never be like other people [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and neither can other people be like you. The way you measure your success is not determined by other people and what they achieve. Instead [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], it is determined by your own life purpose. You have everything you need to achieve your life purpose [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], so it's useless to compare yourself with others.
6. Always be true to yourself
You don't like other people lying to you [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], right? Similarly [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], you won't like yourself if you know that you lie to yourself. Whether you realize it or not [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], that gives your mind a reason not to like yourself. That’s why it's important to always be true to yourself. In whatever you do [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], be honest and follow your conscience. Remember this quote by Abraham Lincoln:
I desire so to conduct the affairs of this administration that if at the end . . . I have lost every other friend on earth [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], I shall at least have one friend left [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and that friend shall be down inside of me.

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